20 Lessons I’ve Learned In My Twenties So Far

Are you in your twenties feeling lost, confused, and overwhelmed? Venturing through my twenties has been both challenging but exciting. Along the way I have learned many lessons. Today I wanted to share with you 20 lessons that I have learned in my twenties so far.

20 life changing lessons I learned in my twenties.

Lesson 1: Nothing Comes Easy

You can’t expect to get everything handed to you. In order to accomplish your goals, dreams, and aspirations you must work hard everyday to achieve them. Yes, life will throw curve balls your way but don’t give up. It may seem like it will never happen but I promise you, the day will come where everything has fallen perfectly into place and you can thank it to your hard work.

Lesson 2: Be Grateful And Kind

Kindness goes a long way. If you go through life being completely awful to everyone, you will get no where and you will end up alone. Be kind. It is also important to be grateful for the things you do have. Don’t focus on everything you don’t have. Start appreciating what’s right in front of you and you will find yourself a lot happier.

Lesson 3: Budget & Save

This is a super important lesson that I learned. Before I had a budget I found myself broke every week. I was struggling to pay my bills on time. Now that I budget, I am always paying my bills on time and it has taken a lot of stress off of me. Saving is important too. Put money away each week, whether it’d be 5$ or 25$ it will add up and it’s important to have a sense of security.

Related: How to feel rich in your twenties

Lesson 4: Work On Your Credit

Unfortunately, having a good credit score is extremely important for adult hood. If you want a house, a new car, anything like that, a good credit score is a MUST. Repeat after me:I will not get a bunch of credit cards”. I learned the hard way with credit cards. I racked up my cards and maxed out more than one. Yes, I pay my credit card bills on time but that doesn’t change the fact that I have a lot of credit card debt. This has made my life extremely stressful and in fact it makes it even harder for me to save. You say you will be able to pay them off within a few months but I am telling you, its easier said than done. If anything get ONE credit card that you can use for food & gas and pay off the balance IMMEDIATELY! This will help your credit score so much!

Lesson 5: Say Yes to New Adventures

You are given one life so you might as well live it up. Don’t be afraid to go on adventures or try something new. Go out of your comfort zone and explore life while you are still young. You don’t want to regret the chances you never took.

Lesson 6: Stop Settling

This is important. Stop settling! Don’t settle in relationships, friendships, jobs, or where you live. Do what makes you happy and you know what you deserve! You aren’t stuck, make a change if need be.

Lesson 7: You Are Not Defined By Your Degree

Maybe I will be the first to say it, but, don’t stress if you don’t have your college degree yet. Let’s face it, a degree is A LOT of money. Everything will come in due time. You may not have your degree yet, but at least you aren’t in a lot of debt. There are successful people without a college degree and there are many who are successful with a degree. It’s all about your mindset and going after what you want. Don’t feel like you need a degree by a certain age either. Success comes within different times for everyone. You can agree or disagree with me but I stand strong on what I believe when it comes to a college degree.

Related: What College Means to me – Boss Babe Edition

Lesson 8: Speak Up For What You Believe In

Don’t be afraid to ever voice what you believe in. You have the right to an opinion, let it be heard. Maybe you can be the change that the world needs.

Lesson 9: Mental Health Is Important

Yes, we all know physical health is important but mental health is just as important. Do things daily that make you happy. Talk to yourself in a positive way & practice self love. Remember it’s okay not to be okay sometimes. It’s okay to cry and don’t beat yourself up if you are feeling a little under the weather.

Related: How to Cope with Anxiety   & 25 ways to practice self love

Lesson 10: Ask For Help

It’s important to know that, yes, you are on your own, but it’s okay to ask for help. Don’t feel ashamed or belittled because you have to ask for help. Adult hood isn’t easy. I still ask my mom how to do taxes. I’m not ashamed!

Lesson 11: Take Care Of Your Body

You are given one body and it’s important you take good care of it. Eat foods that are healthy for you and exercise is important too. It’ll not only make you feel great about yourself but health is truly important. Make sure you are going to your doctors and dentist appointments, as hard as it is to make time, try!

Lesson 12: Your Current Job Isn’t Forever

Starting off on your own you will have many jobs that you do not enjoy. Know that these jobs are not forever. As long as you are working towards what you truly want in life, one day you will have a job you love. As long as you put the effort in and don’t sit back and wait for the job to come to you. Work towards finding that one job that is your dream calling.

Lesson 13: It’s Okay To Have Few Friends

As you grow older your friends list grows shorter. That’s okay. I’d rather have a few really amazing friends than a bunch of friends that I can’t count on. Life gets busy and making time for friends becomes a lot harder. You will grow apart from those you never thought you would. It’s sad, but it’s okay. If you have a set of friends who you know will be there for you even when you don’t see each other for long periods of time, that’s all that matters.


Lesson 14: Don’t Let Others Opinions Define You

You will have “haters” throughout life. You will have people who will find happiness in your struggles. Don’t let the negative opinions of others define who you are. It’s hard to do, but it is vital that you ignore those who try and bring you down. Focus on yourself and bettering your future. Anyone who has something negative to say has issues of their own that they are still working on.

Lesson 15: No One Is On The Same Journey

This is important to remember. We are all on this journey of life together but we don’t all have the same paths. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s. If someone is engaged and having children before you, that’s okay. Your time will come. If someone graduates college before you, that’s okay too. Everything happens for a reason and your time will come when it’s supposed to.

Lesson 16: Make Mistakes

It is okay to make mistakes. That is how you learn. Don’t ever feel bad for making a mistake. No one is perfect.

Lesson 17: Stop Criticizing Yourself

We are our own worst critics! The more you criticize yourself the worse off you will feel. Instead of saying negative thoughts about yourself, uplift yourself with positive words.

Lesson 18: Focus On Your Goals

You will never accomplish your goals unless you work on them. Remember that.

Lesson 19: Make Time For Family

This is important. Family is forever and it’s important to make time for them. You may have fought with your parents growing up but now that you are in their shoes everything starts making more sense. Your parents will have your back so it’s important to spend quality time with them and remind them just how much you appreciate them. Life is too short.

Lesson 20: You’re Better Off Than You Think You Are

Just remember, things could be worse. Even when you feel like your life is at it’s worse, it’s not. There is always worse. If you have a job, food on your plate, friends and family who care then you are blessed so appreciate your life even on your worst days.

Related: How to be Happy with the Life you Live

These are some of the most important lessons i’ve learned thus far in my journey through my twenties with plenty more to come. 

Until Next Time, 

Author: ellduclos

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