Do you struggle with low self esteem? Maybe you feel like you aren’t worthy enough? Too often we tell ourselves that we aren’t worthy of the life we desire, or that we aren’t worthy for someone else.
One of my favorite quotes says: “We sabotage the great things in our lives because deep down we don’t feel worthy of having the great things.” Now how true is that? What’s true is that we feel this way, but it is untrue that we are not worthy of these great things. In fact, we are worthy of many great things in life.
The biggest critic is yourself. We criticize ourselves more than any worst enemy ever could. It’s important to our mental health that we start working on taking care of our minds and start boosting our self esteem and self worth.
This definitely doesn’t come easy and I am still working on building my self esteem and worth back up. Slowly I am learning that I am worthy of great things. I wanted to share my best tips for overcoming feelings of low self worth and how to build you self esteem back up.
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How to Overcome Feelings of Low Self Esteem & Find Your Worth
Wake up happy
The first way to overcome feelings of low self esteem is to decide every morning that you are in a good mood. This is so important. If you wake up happy and you decide that “today is going to be a good day” then chances are you are going to have a good day. If you wake up and you start your day with a negative thought it will create negative energy that will set the tone for your day in a negative way.
Obsess over positives
When it comes to building our self esteem back up it’s important to obsess over the things we love about ourselves. Stop focusing on things that you “hate” about yourself and start obsessing over everything you love. Tell yourself you are gorgeous and you love your hair, every morning. Stop focusing on one or two pimples and tell yourself, wow my skin looks amazing. Stop looking for flaws.
Face it, everyone has their own flaws but if you start feeling good about your flaws then this energy will reflect off of you and on to others creating positivity. So what you have a zit? You’re still gorgeous! Compliment yourself daily.
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Keep a journal. I know it might sound “lame” or like a “waste of time”, but it’s the complete opposite. Journaling helps a lot of people when it comes to stress, anxiety, and negative thoughts. Start journaling, but try to journal in a positive way. Write only positive thoughts. Write what you are thankful for, what you love about yourself, your goals, what you love in general, positive affirmations. This is great for helping with low self esteem.
Don’t push away
Stop pushing people away because you feel un-worthy. This is a huge problem for many. They tend to feel un-worthy so they constantly push away other people who care for them. This usually ties in with being too afraid to get close. If this sounds like you, this is me saying, STOP.
You deserve to have people who care about you in your life. If you continuously push those who care about you away then you will end up alone and feeling even worse. It’s important to surround and fill your life with people who lift you up and make you feel loved. You are worthy of people like this in your life. Don’t think otherwise!
Nourish your body
Eat healthy, exercise, love others. This is important. When you take care of yourself you will start to love yourself more. If you are feeling at your best then your positivity increases as well which shifts your mood and the way you think about yourself. Soon you will feel your self esteem increase and you will feel worthy again. Feed your body nourishing foods and exercise at least 20 mins a day. Love and treat others with respect too and it will go a long way.
Discover you are worthy
When you discover your self worth you will lose interest in all those who don’t see it. Getting rid of those who are negative and don’t see your self worth is important. You don’t need this kind of negativity in your life. It will only bring you down. Know what your worth and everyone who doesn’t know it needs to be kicked to the curb.
Believe in yourself
Start believing in yourself. It’s time to say I can and then go for it. Step outside of your comfort zone and trust in yourself. Who cares what other people think of you while you make the decision to go for it. They can say what they want and they can hate on you, but ignore it. It’s time to do things you’ve always wanted to do and take chances on things you are most afraid to go after. In the end you don’t want to regret not taking the chance in the first place. Once you go for it and see what you are truly capable of then your self esteem will boost.
Pick the right partner
Be with someone who is proud to show you off. If you are in a relationship with someone who is embarrassed to show you off or doesn’t make you feel beautiful every single day then it might be time to let go. It is so important to be with someone who makes you feel beautiful and wants to show you off to the world. That’s what you deserve. You are worthy of being shown off to the world. If your significant other doesn’t see that then they don’t deserve you.
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Live in the moment and not the past
Stop living in the past & start living in the now. This is important advice. Too many of us focus on everything that we did “wrong” in our past and we let that stop us from living in the present. The past can’t be fixed and everyone has their mistakes. It’s important to have mistakes in the past because we would have never learned lessons to better our present. Stop focusing on all the wrong you might have done. It’s behind you now. If you start focusing on what you have now and what you can do to better yourself now then you will find your self worth increase.
Try to have a day or two during the week where you unplug from social media. It’s a fact that social media plays a big role in lowered self esteem and self worth. If you take a break from social media you will begin to notice a shift in your self esteem. Try to read a book instead. Set a day or two to be the day of the week where you decide you will not go on social media for any reason what so ever.
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I hope these tips helped you to realize how important you really are while you overcome feelings of low self esteem and worth. Remember you are beautiful are you are worthy of greatness! Don’t ever forget it.