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How to Overcome Feelings of Low Self-Worth

How to Overcome Feelings of Low Self-Worth 

I find that many often feel low self esteem & too often we tell ourselves we aren’t worthy enough. One of my favorite quotes says: “We sabotage the great things in our lives because deep down we don’t feel worthy of having the great things.” Now how true is that? What’s true is we feel this way but it is untrue that we are not worthy of these great things. In fact, we are worthy of many great things in life.

The biggest critic is yourself. We criticize ourselves more than any worst enemy ever could. It’s important to our mental health that we start working on taking care of our minds and start boosting our confidence.

This definitely doesn’t come easy and I am still working on self worth and learning that I am worthy of great things. I am here to tell you my secrets and tips for feeling overall better about yourself. These secrets have helped me to start living a more positive lifestyle. This will help your mental health hugely and you will start feeling worthy before you know it.

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How to overcome feelings of low self worth. Finding happiness and confidence by believing in yourself.

Secret #1: Wake up Happy

Decide every morning that you are in a good mood. This is so important. If you wake up happy and you decide that “today is going to be a good day.” Chances are you are going to have an awesome day. If you wake up and you are telling yourself “ugh, another day, time to go to work and do things I hate.” and you start your day with a negative thought, it will create negative vibes. Chances are, your day will not be awesome.

Secret #2: Obsess Over Positives

Obsess over the things you love about yourself. Stop focusing on things that you “hate” about yourself and start obsessing over everything you love. Tell yourself you are gorgeous and you love your hair, every morning. Stop focusing on one or two pimples and tell yourself, wow my skin looks amazing. Stop looking for flaws. Face it, everyone has their own flaws but if you start feeling good about your flaws and yourself, this energy will reflect off of you and on to others creating positivity. So what you have a zit? You’re still gorgeous! Compliment yourself daily.

Related: How to be your Biggest Motivator

Secret #3: Journaling

Keep a journal. I know it might sound “lame” or like a “waste of time”. In fact it’s the complete opposite. Journaling helps a lot of people when it comes to stress, anxiety, and negative thoughts. Start journaling but, journal in a positive way. Write only positive thoughts. Write what you are thankful for, what you love about yourself, your goals, what you love in general, positive affirmations. This is great for helping with low self-worth.

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Secret #4: Don’t Push Away

Stop pushing people away because you feel unworthy. This is a huge problem for many. They tend to feel low self-worth so they constantly push away others who care for them because they are afraid to get too close. If this sounds like you, this is me saying, STOP. You deserve to have people who care about you in your life. If you continuously push those who care for you away, you will end up alone and feeling even worse. It’s important to surround and fill your life with people who lift you up and make you feel loved. You are worthy of people like this in your life. Don’t think otherwise!

Secret #5: Live Healthy

Eat healthy, exercise, love others. This is important. When you take care of yourself, you start to love yourself more. If you are feeling at your best, your positivity increases as well as your mood which leads to you loving yourself more. You will soon feel your self-worth increase. Feed your body nourishing foods & exercise at least 20 mins a day. Of course, love others, treat others with respect & it will go a long way.

Secret #6: Discover You’re Worthy

When you discover your self worth you will lose interest in all those who don’t see it. Getting rid of those who are negative & don’t see your self worth is important. You don’t need this kind of negativity in your life. It will only bring you down. Know what your worth & everyone who doesn’t know needs to be kicked to the curb.

Secret #7: Believe in Yourself

Start believing in yourself. It’s time to say I can & go for it. Step outside of your comfort zone and trust in yourself. Who cares what others think of you while you make the decision to go for it. They can say what they want & hate on you but ignore it. It’s time to do things you’ve always wanted to do, and take chances on things you are most afraid to go after. In the end you don’t want to regret not taking the chance on things you wanted to try.

Secret #8: Pick the Right Partner

Be with someone who is proud to show you off. If you are in a relationship with someone who is embarrassed to show you off, or doesn’t make you feel beautiful every single day, it might be time to let go. It is so important to be with someone who makes you feel beautiful & is proud to show you off. That’s what you deserve. You are worthy of being shown off to the world. If your significant other doesn’t see that, then they don’t deserve you.

Related: 20 Lessons i’ve Learned in my Twenties

Secret #9: Live in the NOW

Stop living in the past & start living in the now. This is important advice. Too many of us focus on everything that we did “wrong” in our past and let that stop us from living in the present. The past can’t be fixed and everyone has their wrongs. It’s important to have wrongs in the past because we would have never learned lessons to better our present. So stop focusing on all the wrong you might have done & gone through in the past. It’s behind. If you start focusing on what you have now and what you can do to better yourself now, you will be a lot happier.

Secret #10: Unplug

Try to have a day or two during the week where you unplug from social media. It’s a fact that social media plays a big role in lowered self worth & esteem. If you take a break from social media more often, you will begin to notice an increase in self esteem & self worth. Try to read a book or magazine instead. Set Sunday to be the day of the week where you decide you will not go on social media for any reason what so ever.

Related: 10 Ways to Life Your Happiest Life

I hope these secrets help you to realize how important you really are & to start living your life loving yourself. Remember you’re beautiful & your worthy of greatness! Don’t ever forget it.

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  • Kim B Smith

    GREAT tips and great daily reminders! I really love this. I say the grass is always greener….comparision is a depletion and leads to that lack of worth, confidence, and esteem!

    • ellduclos

      Thank you!! I agree 100% with that !

  • Kimberly

    Love, love love this! I believe in setting the mood right away when I wake up! If I wake up excited and happy, the rest of my day follows suit!


    • ellduclos

      Right !? The only way to wake up is to wake up happy!

  • thebarefootangel

    Ahhhh – secret #7 is the big one for me! Start believing in yourself, step outside your comfort zone and try to care less about what people might think! It’s easier said than done, but I think in some ways I am making progress otherwise I never would have started my blog! 🙂

    • ellduclos

      Yes that’s exactly how I feel!! One of my favorite secrets (:

  • Jessie

    I love this and it was something I really needed!

    • ellduclos

      Thank you! I’m glad I could help💗

  • Emily G Davis

    Great tips and such a positive post! Love it!

    • ellduclos

      Thank you so much!

  • Monet

    Great tips, I always have a better day when I exercise and decide to be in a good mood.

    • ellduclos

      Me too!! Thank you so much (:

  • Tessa Torrente

    Seriously great tips! We all need these reminders every now and then.


    • ellduclos

      Thank you!! Yes we do!!

  • style vicksen

    Very good tips! I think these are helpful for EVERYBODY. We all feel low or unworthy from time to time.

    • ellduclos

      Thank you!! I’m glad you liked them! (:

  • Kaylee

    I absolutely love this post! Waking up in a good mood and having a positive outlook for the day is so important.

    • ellduclos

      My favorite thing to do!! Thank you!!! <3

  • Danielle

    These are really great tips. I get into these ruts at times but I know some of what you suggested is the key to getting out of it. I’m going to give these a try!

    • ellduclos

      I’m glad you enjoyed it! Definitely will help! Thank you!!

  • Asaake

    I enjoyed this! A lot of the points resonate with me. I love journaling. That feeling of looking back and seeing how far you’ve come is so encouraging and pushes you to keep moving.
    # 10 is my goal for this new month! I’m positive it’ll go well!
    Thanks for sharing!

    • ellduclos

      I’m glad you liked it! That’s awesome! I know it’ll go well for you too! Thank you!!

  • SeekAndRead

    This article is very helpful. I’ve to use some of these secrets. Thanks for sharing

  • Lisa

    This was a very good reminder to do many things that seem to have fallen by the wayside but that are so necessary for me to function at my best. Thank you!

    • ellduclos

      Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed!

  • Kaitlin

    I love this! I do feel low sometimes and these are some great tips. I can’t wait to implement them in my life!

    • ellduclos

      I’m glad you liked them (: thank you!

  • Katie

    #1 is the most important for me. Only I can decide if I’m going to be in a good mood. And, I don’t think I’ve realized it before, but I may be doing #4 a lot. I definitely disengage and run away if I feel like I’m not enough… but I never saw the pattern until now. Thanks for this post!


    • ellduclos

      Thank you I’m glad you liked it !!

  • Betty

    Great input for any day. Thanks. !
    Journalling. … oh Yes. A daily highlight. Enhances appreciation for life.. Example. Thankful for my 5 senses.

    • ellduclos

      Love that! Thanks so much!

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