How to Fall in Love with Yourself Again

Do you struggle with self worth? Do you feel like sometimes you just aren’t good enough? Have you ever wondered what life would be like if  you could learn how to love yourself again? There have been days where I would tell myself that I was worthless, that I would never find happiness within myself again.

If you didn’t know, I am a college dropout and for the longest time I felt stuck in my life. My confidence was non-existent. Most days I felt like a failure. One day I decided it was time to change my attitude and mindset. Since that day, I have fallen in love with myself again. Not only has this helped my mental health, but it’s also allowed me to pursue my passions whole-heartedly! Today I want to share the best 9 ways to love yourself again. 

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1. How to love yourself through positive affirmations 

I am a huge fan of affirmations. There’s just something about them that make me feel good! Try to start your day off by writing down 10 positive affirmations. You can even try to write down 10 things you love about yourself too! This is a great way to not only start your day on a positive note, but to reflect on the things you truly love about yourself rather than focusing on anything negative.

Some of my favorite affirmations:

  • I am worthy
  • I am strong 
  • I am beautiful
  • I am smart
  • I am capable of achieving greatness 

I even have a list of more affirmations here

2. If you want to love yourself again, stop comparing

I think it’s safe to say that we ALL play the comparison game at some point. Can you admit that you have looked at someone else and said “wow, I wish I was as pretty as her.” OR “wow, I wish I had a nice car like that.”  In order to love yourself again you need to stop comparing and start appreciating.

It’s so easy to accidentally compare yourself without even realizing that you are! BUT, comparison steals your peace and happiness. It also makes you feel like you aren’t good enough when you really are! It fills our mind with self doubt. 

You also have to remember, we don’t all walk the same path and we all have gone through some crap to get where we are today. Be proud of yourself every step of the way. 

3.  It’s important to do things you love

If you want to love yourself again, start doing things you love and enjoy! Growing up I always loved to go hiking with my family and spend time enjoying nature. Something about nature is so freeing to me. I also loved to write! Now that I am older it’s harder to make time to enjoy doing things I really love. It’s important that I make time for the things I love to do. Starting my blog has played a huge role in loving myself again.

4. Have self care dates (by yourself)

I am a huge fan of self care and I think it’s important when it comes to learning how to love yourself again, to practice self care. One thing I like to do is have self care dates by myself. At first I felt strange going on dates by myself. In fact, I even felt embarrassed. BUT, taking these self care dates alone helped to build my confidence and helped me be okay with being by myself. I love who I am and I love spending time by myself.

What dates can you do by yourself? 

  • see a movie
  • go out to eat
  • take a walk or hike
  • go to the beach 
  • go for a run 
  • go to the gym 
  • take a weekend getaway to your favorite place
  • go to the spa
  • give yourself an at home spa day 

These are just a few ideas! 

5. Eliminate your limiting beliefs and change your mindset

When I was fighting my darkest days, my mindset was at it’s worst. Being a full time waitress and college drop out made me feel stuck and worthless. I felt like I didn’t have real purpose. Constantly I would say things like, “I will never be successful.” or “I will never find a job I love, I am not qualified.” Or I would say things like, “Why should anyone love me? I am worthless.” The more I repeated those words to myself, the more I started to believe them.

I encourage you to change your mindset and reword your thinking. You truly are what you THINK you are! 


“I will be successful and have a job I love.” 

“I am not worthless and I am worthy of love.” 

“I am capable of having a life that I love and I am qualified to score my dream job.” 

Believing in myself and in my abilities was a complete game changer. I started going after my dreams of being my own boss and being a full time blogger about 2 years ago. Since changing my mindset, I have been able to accomplish this dream. I now blog full time for a living and work for myself. 

I am telling you, a positive mindset is the BEST mindset to have.

6. Celebrate all your wins, both big and small

I can’t stress this enough. It’s so easy to feel like we aren’t making any progress and it can be extremely defeating. BUT, when we take a step back and actually realize the progress we’ve made since the beginning, it can be eye opening. In order to love yourself again, make sure you are celebrating ALL of your wins! 

Sometimes you need to be your own cheerleader and there is nothing wrong with that! Celebrate all wins, both big and small! Every step of the way is worth celebrating! It can make a huge difference when it comes to your self esteem and falling in love with yourself again. 

7. Love yourself through journaling

As you know, I LOVE to write. Journaling daily can really help you reconnect with yourself. It also brings out those inner thoughts that might be holding you back or blocking you from loving yourself completely. Different journaling exercises can help you let go of all the negativity and really learn how to love yourself again. 

I put together a few journal challenges here:

8. Try something new and do something that scares you

Have you ever been wanting to try something new but maybe fear held you back? It’s time to become fearless! I find that trying something new can create this new sense of “Damn, I am brave.” There is something so empowering about facing your fears! I encourage you to do something that you are afraid to do! 

9. Practice healthy habits daily

I will be the first to admit that my habits weren’t always the healthiest. Once I started to change my habits like drinking more water, get enough sleep, be active when I can. These little changes in my everyday routine made a huge difference when it came to my mental health and feeling happier each day. I also started to feel good about myself and really love who I am.

How to love yourself again. My top tips for learning how to fall in love with yourself through self love and self care practices.

I hope you found these tips helpful. Always remember, you are worthy, you are capable of achieving your wildest of dreams, you are beautiful and you have a purpose and you deserve to love yourself completely. 



Author: ellduclos

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  • I absolutely loved this post! Loving ourselves always seems to be something we put on the back burner and its something we as individuals need to keep upfront in order for us to fully enjoy this life we have been given. Amazing blog post and Ill def be saving this for future reference!

  • I love the idea of self-care dates! I like exploring new coffee shops while traveling. Drinking coffee and reading a book in a nice coffee shop is one of my favorite things 🙂

  • Learning to love spending time by myself has been a game changer in my self care/emotional health journey! I like your advice of changing your limiting beliefs and rewriting your inner narrative!

  • Really interesting! I can relate to this as during my marriage, I felt unworthy for many years due to rejection. I love positive Affirmations, speaking positive has helped me to change my mindset. Thanks for sharing.

    • So sorry you felt that way but so glad you are able to find peace again. It takes time but keep being kind to yourself! You are worthy of love!

  • I take Myself out a lot a massage a run alone time to a coffee shop to people watch I’m loving myself sooo much the older I get I’m a happy girl but I’m really experiencing joy each year I get Older!

  • Loving yourself is so important! We often feel like we aren’t good enough for a person, job, situation, or something else. Once we find our self love and self worth again, we can become unstoppable!

  • I was feeling so down and depressed especially because I’m going through a break but I’m glad I read your story, it’s helping me get through my darkness

  • I absolutely love this post! I have been single for 10 years and it was hard learning to be alone. I use affirmation daily and don’t know where I’d be without them. You have a great blog and will be following.
    I have just started blogging, only 1 month in, and find so much joy in it. I hope that you will check it out.

  • Thanks for the inspiration. I have been struggling and feeling overwhelmed with life. Everything seems to be failing in the world. Its frightening. I realize that a new focus is needed.

  • I read this and it was amazing.
    At this moment I am relaxed and take time for me which I never do because work and my children. I need to read this more aften to get me out of everything that I have going on in life.

  • It’s very hard getting over heartbreak. I’ve been married almost 9 years and he told me he is not in love with me anymore. I had a mental break down over the past 24hrs and couldn’t even fix myself enough to go to work today. I realize that my emotions are running wild and my thought process is a bit broken. I know the way out is to self-love again but it is hard to find the way when all you feel is pain. Through my tears, I googled how to self love again and your blog came up. I am going to take a bubble bath and let the emotions go down the drain with the water. ( self date?). I have bookmarked this page and will be reading it daily to remind myself of affirmations. Thank you for making this blog, I needed to read this and move forward before I fell into deep despair.

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  • Hi there,:)
    Thank you so much for this Article..
    It helps me a great Deal with my healing.
    I still have to heal in some aspects,but I also
    see some improvements I made.
    Stay blessed young Lady so we still can read some of your Blogs.:)

  • I feel completely broken physically and emotionally but for some reason I’m still here. Imagine being upset that you woke up or being envious when others pass away and it’s not you. I’ve decided to fight with everything I have left in me. I still believe good people suffer more but I don’t have to give up. I’m now determined to use every resources available to me and no longer feel sorry for myself. This is the beginning of my journey to loving myself once again, and no longer feeling isolated and lonely.

    • So sorry to hear about how you have been feeling, sending healing energy your way, I am so happy to hear you are choosing to love yourself again! There’s no better feeling than choosing yourself, our relationship with self is the foundation for the rest of our relationships! You got this!

  • That was awesome, I needed to read this article! I have been struggling lately!! It give me hope to love my self again. Thank you for sharing something worth reading!!!

  • I appreciate this post! It was needed and I’ll be sure to demonstrate on a-lot of those things. Thank you 🤍

  • Thank You so much for sharing your story. I really needed this and now I’m excited to get started with changing my mindset and love myself again.
    God bless you abundantly

  • Thanks for this article. I needed to read it and I’ve saved it to read again later. What a blessing you are to bring light into the darkness that some may be stuck in! Thank you.

  • I really appreciate you for sharing this with with people who struggle with their self worth in times of feeling like I can’t break free from negativity around me. I am a beautiful woman inside and outside, and I want it to always be present wherever I am. I will continue to practice self love and seek things that make me happy.

  • I really enjoyed the tips. I have read them before on Pinterest other blog’s. But it’s always good to be reminded. I feel stuck sometimes because I start to compare myself. The voices will come and depression will pop up and feel like moving in slow motion sometimes. Thank you for this encouragement.

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  • I absolutely needed this today…I needed every word you wrote on your blog today…thank you for your kind words of wisdom! I’ve been praying and praying for gods will in my life and to find out what my next career move is going to be and I’ve kind of lost myself in this process and my mental health has slipped up! Well I think I’m finding the answers but this just helped me so much! I tried to get the journaling prompts! Do I mind sending them to me! It’s

  • Thank you so much for all of your advice. I recently started my journey to a healthier me and all of your points hit on so many levels. Thank you.

  • I have read countless blogs of similar content. I’ve logged more hours in therapy than a lot of my therapists combined. I maintained a weird little shard of hope despite having no logical reason to and tonight, I stumbled upon the link to this post random as hell on Pinterest. For the first time in my life, something spoke to me. You touched part of my soul that should have been long gone and managed to reignite a hard earned fire within a very tired broken person. Thank you. Truly, deeply, inexplicably. I started writing (for the first time in 15 years) before I’d even finished the post and decided to pause at 15 pages in to try and convey my gratitude as well as I possibly could in the weird state of shock that I’m in. I cannot wait to start this new chapter with your wisdom and guidance. Bless you, darling. You are truly gifted and have made a change for at least one person, which is one of the greatest blessings of all.

    • This makes me so happy to hear! I am so glad you found it helpful. Thank you for your sweet words. I am sending so much love your way!

  • Thanks for the empowering read. I have always loved to spend time alone but people’s comments made me feel like I am weird, so to be ‘reasonable,’ I have tried to conform although my kids always wonder why try to change to please people.